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A wooden dresser and long afternoon shadow, therapy for adult children of emotionally immature parents in Virginia

Specialty

Emotionally Immature Parents

Being raised by a parent who couldn't consistently meet your emotional needs shapes how you relate to yourself and others long after you've left home.

Your childhood may not have looked troubled from the outside. There may have been no clear crisis. There was, instead, a steady absence of attunement that you learned to work around.

What This Often Produces

  • 01

    Becoming the emotionally responsible one in the family, starting young

  • 02

    Difficulty identifying your own needs, since they were rarely asked about

  • 03

    A pull toward relationships where you're again the steady, capable one

  • 04

    Guilt about having needs at all, even now

You were allowed to need things then. You still are.

How I Work

Internal Family Systems helps identify the part of you that took on adult responsibility too early, and gives it a different role. Somatic work addresses the bodily habits of self suppression that often outlast the childhood that formed them. This work is about your patterns now, not about assigning blame in retrospect.

Who I See

Adults, often now parents themselves, who are recognizing these patterns and want to raise their own children differently.

A Different Pattern Is Possible

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