--- title: "Navigating caregiver burnout and compassion fatigue" description: "Caregiver burnout and compassion fatigue explained warmly and plainly, with small, doable ways to steady yourself when you are the one everyone leans on." lang: en json-ld: | [ { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Person", "@id": "https://leahharlan.com/#leah-harlan", "name": "Leah Harlan", "honorificSuffix": "MA, LPC", "jobTitle": "Licensed Professional Counselor", "telephone": "804-395-5362", "worksFor": { "@type": "Organization", "name": "Harlan Therapy LLC", "@id": "https://leahharlan.com/#harlan-therapy" }, "address": { "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "6610 Commons Drive, Suite C", "addressLocality": "Prince George", "addressRegion": "VA", "postalCode": "23875", "addressCountry": "US" }, "areaServed": { "@type": "State", "name": "Virginia" } }, { "@type": [ "MedicalBusiness", "ProfessionalService" ], "@id": "https://leahharlan.com/#harlan-therapy", "url": "https://leahharlan.com/", "name": "Harlan Therapy", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://leahharlan.com/logo-harlan-therapy.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 }, "image": "https://leahharlan.com/og-harlan-therapy.png", "telephone": "804-395-5362", "priceRange": "$300 - $2,500", "founder": { "@id": "https://leahharlan.com/#leah-harlan" }, "knowsAbout": [ "Birth trauma", "Traumatic birth recovery", "Perinatal and postpartum anxiety", "Pregnancy after loss", "Brainspotting", "Internal Family Systems", "Somatic therapy" ], "availableService": { "@type": "MedicalTherapy", "name": "Birth trauma therapy" }, "address": { "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "6610 Commons Drive, Suite C", "addressLocality": "Prince George", "addressRegion": "VA", "postalCode": "23875", "addressCountry": "US" }, "areaServed": { "@type": "State", "name": "Virginia" } }, { "@type": "Service", "serviceType": "Psychotherapy for birth trauma and the perinatal window", "provider": { "@id": "https://leahharlan.com/#harlan-therapy" }, "areaServed": { "@type": "State", "name": "Virginia" } } ] }, { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://leahharlan.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Blog", "item": "https://leahharlan.com/blog" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Navigating caregiver burnout and compassion fatigue", "item": "https://leahharlan.com/blog/navigating-caregiver-burnout-and-compassion-fatigue-in-the-midst-of-the-covid-pandemic-rldxw" } ] } ] --- Accepting new patients in-person or virtually across Virginia. 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The pandemic years turned the volume all the way up on this, and for a lot of people it never turned back down. The crisis ended on paper. The habit of running on empty did not. ## Burnout and Compassion Fatigue Are Not the Same Thing Burnout builds slowly. It comes from too much for too long with too little rest, and it tends to show up as exhaustion, cynicism, and the sense that nothing you do makes a dent. Compassion fatigue is quicker and stranger. It comes from being close to other people's pain. It can arrive suddenly, and it often feels like numbness where your warmth used to be. That numbness scares people. It is not a character flaw, momma. It is your nervous system trying to protect you from more than it can hold. ## What It Actually Looks Like - 01 Dreading a phone call from someone you genuinely love - 02 Feeling flat when you used to feel moved - 03 Snapping at small things and then feeling awful about it - 04 Being exhausted but unable to fall asleep, or waking at 3am scanning for problems - 05 Going through the motions of care while feeling far away from yourself - 06 Guilt about all of the above, which is usually the heaviest part If you recognize yourself here, notice that you are not being asked to care less. You are being asked to be included in the group of people who get cared for. ## Small Things That Help The advice to take a long holiday is not useful to most caregivers, because most caregivers cannot leave. So here is what I actually suggest, and what many people find genuinely doable. - 01 Name it out loud. Saying 'I am burned out' to one safe person does more than people expect. - 02 Find the edges of the day. A short walk before you go in, or five minutes in the car before you walk through your own front door. - 03 Let your body finish something. Shake out your hands, sigh out loud, stretch. Stress needs an exit, not only an explanation. - 04 Protect one thing that is yours alone, even if it is fifteen minutes long. - 05 Reduce decisions where you can. Same breakfast, same route, same laundry day. Boring is restful. - 06 Say no to one thing this week and let it be uncomfortable. Rest is not the reward for finishing. It is part of how you keep going. ## When to Bring Someone Else In If the numbness is not lifting, if you are dreading most days, if you are relying on something to get to sleep, or if you are having thoughts of hurting yourself, that is the point to reach out rather than push harder. Therapy can give this somewhere to go that is not your family and not your team. I work with anxiety, trauma, and burnout, and a lot of the people I see are caregivers by profession, by family role, or both. We would move at a pace that feels safe, and you would not have to arrive organized or articulate about it. Related Reading [ ### Stress and Burnout Read more ](/specialties/stress-and-burnout) [ ### Therapists and Helping Professionals Read more ](/who-i-help/therapists-and-helping-professionals) [ ### Anxiety in High Functioning Women Read more ](/specialties/anxiety-in-high-functioning-women) ## If This Sounds Like Your Life The consultation is free and it is only a conversation. Fifteen minutes, no pressure, and you decide afterwards. 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